Marriage R.O.C.K.S. part 7 (last post)

Writing this series has been a true adventure. The comments, in-boxes and emails have been phenomenal, inspirational and motivating...Thank you!  We will end the series with the word SINCERITY.  
How many of us go through life without showing our true colors to someone? Depending on where we are and what's expected of us, we choose what personality to use. And that's ok; there is no way I can act at work the way I act at home. Lord forbid, my patients would think I lost my mind!! At work I'm a professional, therefore complete professionalism is required.  At home I am a mother and a wife therefore complete MADNESS is required. LOL  

Sadly, many people do not feel the freedom to be themselves anywhere or with anyone.   A marriage should provide that for us, a place to be ourselves. With a spouse that makes us feel secure enough to be sincere about our insecurities, weaknesses and struggles. A marriage should also provide us with the freedom to expose that part of us that can only be accepted by someone who truly loves us unconditionally. That person who would love us through the good, the bad and the ugly. A place where we can cry if we are sad, laugh out loud, be angry (although never disrespectful),  and feel our deepest emotions without being judged.  A place where sincerity is honored, not punished. This place should be our homes with our spouses.  

Oscar's take on SINCERITY

One meaning of sincerity is “the quality of being free from pretense.” It’s interesting to know that if there is anyone on this earth that does not pretend is a child. A child speaks his mind. As we grow older we are taught to lie and pretend. Do you remember moments when your parents or whoever you were raised with would say…”don’t say that” when you knew you were speaking the truth about something?  I know that ethics play a role in our communication but never at the cost of not being you.  Sad to say, but many of us have brought that pretense into our marriages.  Being completely sincere can be uncomfortable at times but it is vital in a relationship. Sincerity is one of the pillars that sustain a marriage.

In a marriage we should strive to completely trust the person we are with. Their love should be the driving force encouraging us to let down our guard and stop pretending.  As painful and difficult as that journey may seem, it is more difficult to live a lie. But totally gratifying when sincerity is rewarded with more love! 

 

Well said sweetie!! LOL 

Incredible joy comes from knowing that there is a place on earth where you can be yourself and still be loved and accepted, it’s worth the leap of faith in another person. I encourage you to give that gift to your spouse. Reassure them that with all of the good, the bad and the ugly, you will love them unconditionally. Reward sincerity, don’t punish it. Make your home a safe haven for honesty, transparency and sincerity. 

 Then and only then can we say that our Marriage ROCKS!

Thanks for reading!