If you did it.... OWN IT!

After many mistakes I can say with certainty that I believe life should be less about emotions and more about convictions.  Our emotions can be deceiving, they go up and down like a seesaw.  The problem is that if we lack maturity and principles our decisions tend to be based on emotion rather than convictions.

It takes maturity among other things to do the right thing.  There are times that I rather be getting my nails done than sitting at my son's soccer game... sorry to disappoint you but no I'm not a soccer mom. LOL In those cases I make a conscious decision to be there for my son. The understanding that it is important for his self-esteem to look up after a good play and see his mom cheering is something that comes with maturity.  Although if I really think about it, its probably more of a trauma for him. LOL He will probably be talking about this one day on Oprah's couch complaining about my yelling and screaming. At least I can tell him that I thought I was doing the right thing. haha

Now when my husband has to have every tv in the house on the soccer game.... never mind about that one, that one really does get on my nerves, so I act immature and go get my nails done. hahaha

My point, we shouldn't excuse people for acting immature, that only delays their personal growth.  Hold them accountable for their actions and call them out on their selfishness. That should help them reflect on what truly matters. We can easily get into the habit of excusing ourselves and others out of our responsibility to act like ADULTS.
"Oh my husband is just tired"  NO, he is rude and inconsiderate.
"Oh my son is just fuzzy" NO he is being disrespectful and a brat.
"Oh my wife is on her cycle" NO she is being a nag, mean and selfish. LOL
I know it sounds harsh but I believe whole hardheartedly that in NOT all but in MANY cases this is true.

No circumstance should be an excuse for anyone to be disrespectful, inconsiderate, mean or nasty. We need to stop making excuses, grow up and take responsibility.  We all go through things in which we need to step back, process, think and work out. However, lashing out at the people we love is NOT part of that process.

We need to OWN it, we cant live only by what feels good or by what we think makes us feel better.

 There are sacrifices to be made, compromises to be had, and pain to be endured for the sake of others.  Its part of doing the right thing.

No one is responsible for our actions but ourselves, lets be conscious of our actions.  Lets make better choices, choices based on conviction rather than emotions.

Thanks for reading! :)