You've Got a Friend in Me

I hope you had a better evening than I did yesterday; I spent endless hours making a costume…. Yes you read it right, a COSTUME.  My little one had to come up with a Dr.Suess character; name the character and design a costume for it.  Obviously the teacher didn’t get that his mom is completely “arts & craft” challenged by looking at his other projects. LOL  soooo, he decides to call his character “Wacky Smacky” yup, and his powers; he smacks everything and everyone in his way!!! LOL today I have to work on his hat, its suppose to have hands on both sides that move from side to side. Lord have mercy….. LOL (I’ll post a picture)

In today’s blog I will be talking about friendships.  I’m excited that three of my BFFs have agreed to write tomorrow’s blog; I can’t wait for you to meet them.  

Friends, in my opinion are an important part of life; they are crucial to our emotional development, they say a lot about who we are and what we hold dear.  There is a Spanish saying that says; “dime con quien andas y te dire quien eres.” (Tell me who you hang around with and I will tell you who you really are) There is “some” truth to that, most of the people you associate with are usually people you have something in common with.  I have a theory about friendships…. There are three different types; F (friends), BF (best-friends) and BFF (best friend for ever) LOL

(F) Friends are the people that you relate to while in a specific place; like work, church, band, or team.  Outside of that, you don’t have much in common, but while in that setting, you get along terrific. You can talk endless hours about the “thing” you belong to and share many of the same thoughts about it. This friend is good to have because they motivate you to continue doing what you are doing.  You look forward to seeing them within that arena.  I have many of these, and love them so much; we laugh together, complain, play jokes on each other and truly enjoy each other’s company. These types of friends requires little or no maintenance. 

(BF) Best Friends are those that you enjoy doing things with; they are fun to go shopping with, have lunch with, gossiping with LOL, you do favors for each other, go to movies and you might even take vacations together.  They are awesome to have; you can count on them to be there when you have a gathering or get-together.  This is the friend that will stay afterwards to help you clean up.  LOL

(BFF) Best Friends Forever are extremely hard to come by…. If we are lucky, we may have two during our entire lifetime.  They are the first ones on your mind when something good or something bad happens.  They are the ones that you can do the “ugly cry” with. LOL I’m not sure if any of you have ever watched the TV series “Smallville” well if you have, that friend would be Cloe. She keeps your secrets, holds your hand, wants the best for you, has your back, and even if you don’t see each other for months, when together; not a minute has passed. You can agree to disagree, you never feel judge around them.  They can see your ugly side and still think you’re cute. Hahaha I am blessed to have three of these friends.  All three I have known for over 20 years.  I LOVE them with all my heart and soul, and well.....  they really don’t have a choice in being my BFFs because they already know too much! LOL

The key to have friendships like the ones above is to keep realistic expectations. No one will be “everything” for anyone.  Not even you lol…. We have different friends for different things, and that’s ok.   It is immature to stop being friends with someone because they don’t like everything we like or have our same opinions about everything.  People will fail, betray, lie, hurt you; sometimes even unintentionally.  But that should not keep us from enjoying the amazing experience that is “friendship” We have to become the friend we would like to have.

Reasons why friendships are important; for one, they take the pressure away from your kids and spouses! I know there are times when I’m driving my hubby crazy yapping and yapping about the same thing over and over. After a while of him trying to understand what I’m saying and tired of me saying “ you just don’t get it” he says “ why don’t you text you BFFs” hahaha and he is right.  There are things that only another woman can understand and yet we expect our spouses to be everything to us; yes even “girls” for “girl talk” that’s not fair.  LOL

Sometimes as women, we get frustreated because we would like our husbands to watch girly movies with us, to enjoy the mall, to want to see plays.  But unfortuantly most made are not made like that... so, guess what, rather than trying to change who they are; WE NEED TO GET A GIRLFRIEND!!” leave that poor man alone with his ESPN. Lol of course I’m not saying he can’t make an effort once in a while to compromise and do some of those things, but for us to expect them to learn to like these things is a long stretch. LOL they can’t possibly be “everything” for us; nor us for them.  We need friendships and so do they.  Encourage that for one another, you will see that your relationship will grow stronger. 

I know there are some that may say oh no, my spouse is my best friend.  Ok, that’s great and that could very well be. Just make sure that your “theory” is not based on distrust, control or fear (we can get into that on another blog) LOL. Well, to be honest, I still think you are missing out; he will never, ever understand PMS like a Bff would.  LOL